Friday, April 25, 2008

I Forgot

I was driving home from work the other day and I heard a piece on National Public Radio about professional musicians who forget their instruments. I didn't hear the whole thing, but they mentioned stories about symphony musicians who leave expensive instruments somewhere (the Stradivarius left in the cab, for instance).

They asked a mental health professional who also happened to be a musician why people do these things. The mental health talking head said it happened because the musician was "hyperfocussed" or so concentrated on the upcoming performance that everything else was driven out of the mind. He also speculated that performance anxiety was expressed as an unconscious wish to lose the instrument. What he didn't mention, but the first thing that popped into my head, was sleep deprivation or just simple absent-mindedness.

We all do absent-minded things at some time in our lives. We lock our keys in the car, or ourselves out of the house, or we forget to pay a bill or to mail a bill that's already been paid. We forget birthdays and anniversaries and other important dates that we (and our loved ones) really expect us to remember. Fortunately, we also forget anniversary dates of things that are better left forgotten, although I think it will be a long time before anyone forgets dates like 9/11. (Do young people know the date 12/7? Isn't it amazing what we, as a collective national memory, forget?)

Yet we don't consult mental health professionals about why these things happen. Remembering things, and forgetting, are a natural mental process that happens continously outside our awareness. If the problem becomes too severe---if we start forgetting the names of our spouses or children or where we live, or if the memory problem becomes associated with other brain problems like writing or reading or talking, then it becomes a disease.

Age-related memory changes may concern older people, but they are not necessarily a sign of progressive disease. It can also be a sign of clinical depression, in which case memory problems are temporary and reversible.

Of course, none of this explains why I keep forgetting to take my iPod out of my my car when I get home. It must be an unconscious fear of listening to My Three Shrinks. What I want to know is, what's the unconscious wish for forgetting to pick up your kid?

4 comments:

Dinah said...

Sort of spooky...I was at a meeting last night where the main speaker had to leave before it began because he'd forgotten his reading glasses...you'll be pleased to know I thought it had psychodynamic origins and was not simple forgetting

Therapy patient said...

The "forgetting" stories that always get to me are the ones of people who drive to work and spend the day at work ... forgetting that their infant is in the car seat behind the empty driver's seat. This often results in death for the infant and leaves me sick to my stomach when I read the account. HOW COULD THEY??

The first day I had to take an exam to qualify me to teach in the state of CA last Nov. I hopped out of the car at 7am (I time I generally would have been sleeping), and concentrating on the upcoming 5-hour exam slammed the door ... with my keys inside. Definitely was distracted from normal routines that day by the fear of the upcoming exam. I really can't see myself EVER losing a $500,000 musical instrument, though.

ClinkShrink said...

Yes, the infant car seat cases are pretty horrible. I imagine this happens when the person breaks routine and has the child at a time when he or she doesn't usually have the child. How many people routinely look in the back seat when getting out of a car? I dunno, it's hard to imagine.

April said...

Thanks, I'll use that Krebs Cycle quiz to study for my A&P III exam!