tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post1335799485151429608..comments2024-03-18T03:28:36.581-04:00Comments on Shrink Rap: Fifty Shades of Why?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-24609058265197253252012-06-11T23:54:35.004-04:002012-06-11T23:54:35.004-04:00I read an Amazon preview page. That was enough for...I read an Amazon preview page. That was enough for me. <br /><br />I think it's called "mommy porn" because it's assumed that married women with children are soccer moms with nonexistent sex lives, but deep down they're kinky and twisted but can't tell their partners for whatever reason. That's the stereotype I've gleaned, anyway. I'm not entirely sure how many women actually fit this stereotype - a lot of the married folks I've talked to are happy with their sex lives, though keeping it interesting is an on-going process of course.<br /><br />It's unfortunate that there are so many talented erotica writers out there and this one is making cash on a terrible series. And I bet it's making people who had been practicing BDSM prior to the books coming out cringe.<br /><br />Eh, whatever gets you off I guess. There are way better books out there, though.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16637780745241120840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-26011080780769827552012-06-11T23:11:34.614-04:002012-06-11T23:11:34.614-04:00Maybe people are needing a new perversion fix, whi...Maybe people are needing a new perversion fix, while indefinitely awaiting The Winds of Winter?Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13276587338037331781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-63661178694413016982012-06-08T20:07:22.173-04:002012-06-08T20:07:22.173-04:00The concept of putting a choke collar and leash on...The concept of putting a choke collar and leash on Roy is not unappealing. <br /><br />I didn't read Twilight<br /><br />Dani thank you for buying Shrink Rap instead of 50 Shades. I liked your analysis, except when I was reading it, I did you assume you had read the book.Dinahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09227988351623862689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-20872533458869156412012-06-08T20:01:08.420-04:002012-06-08T20:01:08.420-04:00It's your own fault. If you had just written f...It's your own fault. If you had just written fabrications about Clink begging prisoners to spank her with her prescription pad at every appointment you might have made a fortune. Or maybe you could have lustfully written that you went to Roy's home with a choke collar around your neck and then got on your knees and begged him to put a leash on you so that he could walk you home and watch your husband punish you for being such a naughty shrink. Fiction is always more entertaining than the truth.<br /><br />Hmmmm...I'm not a mommy, so I don't know why mommy's would be into it. But then I didn't read the book. Does she have a lot of orgasms in the book? I know some married women who have complained about the fact that their husbands are like animals. They can't control themselves and they finish really quick. Does he just have a lot of control over himself in the book?<br /><br />I have one friend who married an older man, and she told me that if he "wastes it" in the shower then they won't be having sex. So she sends lots of little hints in the morning, so that by the time night rolls around he doesn't take a shower and waste it.<br /><br />Men are complicated. If I ever get married and have children, I'll have to look at 50 shades of gray and see if that helps me deal with any of the frustration from it all.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06030949818467743750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-544139592945083692012-06-08T14:38:43.462-04:002012-06-08T14:38:43.462-04:00I have heard people talking about it briefly. I a...I have heard people talking about it briefly. I always assumed that it was some series on HBO or something. Sounds like a matter of time though. Good thing I came here today and you set me straight. LOL<br /><br />Most likely will not read it. I rarely read fiction other than the occasional piece of classic literature. On the whole, non-fiction is what draws me in. Love a good memoir or auto-biography.<br /><br />And really, who doesn't like a good psychology/psychiatry book? I'm being serious here, as I own Goodwin/Jamison "Manic Depressive Illness." Amazon keeps hounding me asking if I want to sell back my "textbook." Silly people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-25729597248286817442012-06-08T11:08:22.892-04:002012-06-08T11:08:22.892-04:00Why is it Mommy Porn?
I think it's derisively...<i>Why is it Mommy Porn?</i><br /><br />I think it's derisively referred to as mommy porn because the assumption is that any other demographic would just consume porn-as-porn and be honest about it, rather than porn disguised as chicklit.<br /><br />Since 'mommies' are tasked with keeping the world safe for children, that means not allowing pornography, which means they have to hide it behind the trappings of the romance novel and to treat their sexual interests as guilty secrets. That the kind of sex is considered taboo just makes it more thrilling. It's like being 8th grade girls all over again, turning down the corners of pages with naughty bits and giggling with girlfriends about them in private.<br /><br /><i>The sex is the draw, and I'm left to wonder why.</i><br />I think there is a draw in the fantasy of being in control but without responsibility. It's a common thread with submissives of all genders. There's control, because the submissive partner can direct the play by cooperating or resisting (or by using a safe word). It's freedom because they don't have to be directly in charge of something for a while. <br /><br />This combines with the double standard that women shouldn't seek sex, so having pleasure 'forced' on them is the only socially acceptable way to have it. And to be the 'victim' in such a scenario is to feel so desired that someone else will go to great lengths to have you.<br /><br /><i>Okay, so you tell me, why is Fifty Shades of Grey selling better than Shrink Rap?</i><br />I dunno; I bought Shrink Rap and wouldn't touch the other book with someone else's ten-foot pole. :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02435625244324540762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-83495591846561234702012-06-08T11:07:28.000-04:002012-06-08T11:07:28.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02435625244324540762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-44089050111325375662012-06-08T10:19:05.909-04:002012-06-08T10:19:05.909-04:00@bdsm addict
I wonder how many of the supposedly ...@bdsm addict<br /><br />I wonder how many of the supposedly "normal" people involved in the bdsm lifestyle actually have abuse histories that they don't acknowledge. I mean abuse history to include more than sexual abuse in my definition however because I think many kinds of emotional and psychological abuse are as damaging as sexual and could result in experimenting/enjoying power dynamics and sexuality. I agree with you that it is more complicated than a simple reliving or reconstructing scenes from childhood.attachedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15654226085397576743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-52812075623584548372012-06-08T02:51:00.715-04:002012-06-08T02:51:00.715-04:00I have a bdsm addiction according to the many psyc...I have a bdsm addiction according to the many psychologists and psychiatrists I see. I don't enjoy it yet I am pulled towards it like a drug addict to his crack. My therapist think it is me reliving scenes from my childhood and reconstructing them so I can understand the horrible abuse I went through. I have been told many times that bdsm is not a valid life choice something I very strongly disagree with. I know they unsafe way I engage it is harmful to me but on a whole I do think bdsm is much more common then people think and in the right way it can be a very valid choice for consenting adults. <br />I also hate the fact that I have been repeatedly told that only people who have been abused engage in such activities and that no sane normal person is attracted to bdsm. I would love to do a study one day to prove wrong the many 'experts' who have told me this again and again!bdsm addictnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-88939593147486443182012-06-08T02:25:33.606-04:002012-06-08T02:25:33.606-04:00I realized my comment might sound like I'm int...I realized my comment might sound like I'm into that stuff. I'm not. Probably no one was thinking it but I'm afraid of everything, so there.Sarebearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208596053319110470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-22327334000222465972012-06-08T00:08:30.317-04:002012-06-08T00:08:30.317-04:00To answer your question as to why it's so popu...To answer your question as to why it's so popular...<br /><br />The book was originally Twilight slashfic. It was very popular, but some people urged the writer to change the names, because it was a little "extreme". The author then packaged everything up and self-published on Amazon as an ebook for $.99. She already had a built in audience with the Twilight crowd and at the low price point, it shot to the top of the Amazon charts (people will buy anything for $.99). And so more people purchased it since it was best selling. Then a publisher noticed and offered her a book deal. Now there is all this online buzz and blogs started commenting and then the MSM picked it up. It continues to snowball as people are talking about how "taboo" it was. Next thing you know Barbara Walters is talking about rough sex on The View and SNL is doing skits.<br /><br />And that is the phenomena of 50 Shades of Grey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-42021826094050507282012-06-08T00:06:33.577-04:002012-06-08T00:06:33.577-04:00I think I better not say what I have to say on the...I think I better not say what I have to say on the subject.<br /><br />Confusing enough?<br /><br />SarebearSarebearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208596053319110470noreply@blogger.com