tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post8838848738064807909..comments2024-03-18T03:28:36.581-04:00Comments on Shrink Rap: How to Raise Teenagers: I Must Have Slept Through That LectureUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-42290410429239054272010-11-27T12:17:54.962-05:002010-11-27T12:17:54.962-05:00I am wondering how is this possible? Can you expla...I am wondering how is this possible? Can you explain more details in your blog post. It will be more useful. Thanks : Ed Levitra, Pharma student.Ed Levitrahttp://www.levitra.mobinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-21054875918291935042009-08-05T13:24:33.745-04:002009-08-05T13:24:33.745-04:00The teen years are quite a difficult period in one...The teen years are quite a difficult period in one's life .teenhttp://teen.infonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-7022576753380187792007-09-11T07:32:00.000-04:002007-09-11T07:32:00.000-04:00Where is that wrench when you need it? The all-pu...Where is that wrench when you need it? The all-purpose, handy dandy, fits hex, allen, phillips, minus sign(?), bolts, is adjustable, ratchets, is angled for those really difficult tight spots like when your teen calls and they're at a party and the friends who drove them have had a beer and they don't want to get into trouble but could you come get them (said wrench magically zaps some courage to them to help overcome the fear of calling the parent in said situation), handy for those teen girl hormone "but I want to learn about sex too but not from my mom and why do people overlook boys finding out and talking about it but think a girl is bad if she has the same urges" and how to handle THAT uber-thorny situation (oh, and the wrench magically lets you know that this is going on . . . .)<BR/><BR/>Woohoo. THAT wrench would sell for a billion jillion dollars.<BR/><BR/>Can't find IT on ebay, though, DANG it all . . .<BR/><BR/>Thanks Dinah.<BR/><BR/>Thanks anonymous. I do sometimes wonder (again, I don't regret her or not love or accept her fully or anything) how and why the universe/God/deity/spiritual force/karma/happenstance/SOMETHING thought I could handle a special needs child along with everything else . . . <BR/><BR/>Oh, and I always forget when my mother hit me. I don't think she intended to hurt me, as a person, though, she was just angry, and I was some THING for her to oppress, to try to control, to try to make me not disagree with her or something.<BR/><BR/>I dunno. It's odd, how I always forget that she hit me during a period (well, the parts that I remember) of pre-teen through late teenagerhood.Sarebearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208596053319110470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-80005974176695569492007-09-09T07:26:00.000-04:002007-09-09T07:26:00.000-04:00It used to crack me up when I was a PCP in the off...It used to crack me up when I was a PCP in the office that people would bring their teens to me and basically say, "Fix them." Uhmmm...with what? A wrench? I didn't learn nothing 'bout raising no teens in med school. I only hope I figure it out in the next ten years or so before I'm actually responsible for one.Fat Doctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09672076019531106668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-37050109050009406472007-09-07T17:18:00.000-04:002007-09-07T17:18:00.000-04:00Sadly, I'm left knowing that my children are pushi...<I>Sadly, I'm left knowing that my children are pushing me away because they are growing up and doing all the things they should be doing, and while it's always been easy to rejoice in their milestones, these stages entail a bit of quiet grief as I come to terms with the fact that my children will never have the relationship they had with me when they were little.</I><BR/><BR/>All true, but eventually you will be able to have adult-to-adult relationships with them.<BR/><BR/>I'm 25, and I get along really well with my parents, but I did go through a period around maybe 14-19 where I was convinced I had nothing whatsoever in common with my parents. But I came back around; your kids probably will to.Olivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14451435392669563296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-87487077317173476392007-09-07T08:16:00.000-04:002007-09-07T08:16:00.000-04:00EEK, Raising an austistic (even a high functioning...EEK, Raising an austistic (even a high functioning one)is much more challenging that raising a "neurotypical" child and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.<BR/>And as for information my seven year old boy has asked me what Levitra does. (he sees these ads on TV) As much as I'd like to tell him, I worry he will go to school and tell his second grade class that Levitra make your "peenie big". Life is hard there is no way around that. Love abfAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-89520132652338510612007-09-07T07:32:00.000-04:002007-09-07T07:32:00.000-04:00Sarebear: EXACTLY! why didn't they come with an i...Sarebear: EXACTLY! why didn't they come with an instruction manual?Dinahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09227988351623862689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-86810257443531835672007-09-07T05:48:00.000-04:002007-09-07T05:48:00.000-04:00My teenager parental challenges will have some dif...My teenager parental challenges will have some different aspects due to dd's autism (very high functioning). She's starting to do that, c'mon, mom, you are SO behind and it's frustrating, thing (not in those words, but in behaviors, interactions, and other words), that exasperated impatience/frustration which you seem to know too well.<BR/><BR/>My baby is almost 9. We're starting the pre-teen years here, I guess, and some of the new and different challenges in parenting, teaching, guiding, instructing, interacting, fumbling around for a rational discipline scheme that fits into it the fact that there are some types of things/changes/situations that do an end run past what coping mechanisms "neuro-typical" kids would have, for tolerating change, transitions, etc. (I don't know if that's the proper term, but I saw another parent of an autistic child use it; I don't like to use normal as terminology, because that implies that my daughter is . . . less than, defective, not normal . . . . Autism isn't who she is, it's just a part of how she interfaces with the world, but I still haven't figured out how I feel about the whole thing, it's kind of a big issue (other than, of course, loving and accepting her completely!!!).<BR/><BR/>Anyway. As parents, we question ourselves enough as it is, ie, did I do the right thing, was I too harsh, too lenient, too empathetic/friendlike when I should have been more something else, etc. . . . and the extra layers of questioning and doubt that trying to accomodate her needs while trying to discipline and yet allow for behavior that in a non-autistic child would most likely be cause for discipline from most anyone's point of view . . . . trying to figure out if you're coddling, or not accomodating enough, and what harm getting these things wrong might be doing . . .<BR/><BR/>Agh! Anyway, I'm not saying all this to say my situation is more challenging; just to empathize as , this last year, the pushing against boundaries/authority etc. stuff has started, in subtle ways but growing less so . . . . I've been so blessed that in so many other ways, she's been an easy child (such as sleeping through the night starting at one month old!) . . . . I guess I just take a deep breath and do the best I can. And know that, while stuff my parents did, and didn't do, while I was growing up, caused me harm, they didn't INTEND any . . . . I don't know if that's an excuse, but I know that with so many variables, and as my daughter's personality and independence grow, strengthen, develop, and emerge more, that I'll make a zillion mistakes. I guess all I can do is just work with my husband (although we frequently disagree on child-rearing issues, ugh!) and try our best and try not to obsess about my shortcomings as a mother.<BR/><BR/>Urk. I just wrote a novel. And then, as innocent as she is, I worry that people will manipulate her into situations and things that she's not equipped to handle. I actually give her MORE information on some of these things than one might think to, because she's VERY bright, and I hope that that, combined with the right kind of info, will help protect her in a world where my ability to protect her decreases the older she, and especially her peers, who have such potential to harm, grow.<BR/><BR/>Ok, more than 'nuff said . . . . I believe that s'mores/Shakespeare thing is one of those, as Mastercard says, "Priceless" moments.Sarebearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208596053319110470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-62808117351280473202007-09-05T06:24:00.000-04:002007-09-05T06:24:00.000-04:00Rach--my "hormones with legs units" are on offer t...Rach--my "hormones with legs units" are on offer to you for assistance with computer problems. It won't take em hours on end and they prefer water, but the pizza is still a good idea.Otherwhyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10226311893682355316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-30848921085965089522007-09-05T02:43:00.000-04:002007-09-05T02:43:00.000-04:00I love hormones with legs! especially when you fee...I love hormones with legs! especially when you feed them greasy pizza and soft drinks and then sit them in front of a computer for hours on end and tell them to fix the problem with the whosit in your software, and the 15 year old rolls their eyes at you... Because you're soooo dumb and everyone knows how to fix whosit problems in random software!<BR/><BR/>grrrr...Rachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11897760883997811787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-33278219151236948062007-09-05T00:00:00.000-04:002007-09-05T00:00:00.000-04:00Why did I think it was Vitamin D? No wonder I'm h...Why did I think it was Vitamin D? No wonder I'm having so much trouble. Got any good polar bear liver recipes? Will the teenagers like it?Dinahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09227988351623862689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-71311554007644774382007-09-04T22:08:00.000-04:002007-09-04T22:08:00.000-04:00Actually, it was Vitamin A toxicity from polar bea...Actually, it was <A HREF="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Retinol#Polar_bear_liver" REL="nofollow">Vitamin A toxicity</A> from polar bear liver, although I prefer arctic fox liver myself.<BR/><BR/>And anyone who blogs about chocolate is a friend of mine. Welcome Dr. Shock.ClinkShrinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13316134491751195651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-8978603435008873342007-09-04T21:05:00.000-04:002007-09-04T21:05:00.000-04:00Wow, Check out Dr. Shock-- a psychiatrist who blog...Wow, Check out Dr. Shock-- a psychiatrist who blogs about ECT and Chocolate--does it get any better than that?<BR/><BR/>Val: funny, I was thinking I never learned about normal development or vitamins, except that one can get vitamin D intoxication from eating too much polar bear liver (and let me tell you how useful knowing that has been in Baltimore). I guess vit B3 (niacin) for hypercholesterolemia.<BR/><BR/>Please note to all: there are a lot of pretty wonderful things about the grunting teenagers.Dinahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09227988351623862689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-47222359792827816462007-09-04T17:55:00.000-04:002007-09-04T17:55:00.000-04:00Dinah - just for some reassurance: I didn't learn ...Dinah - just for some reassurance: I didn't learn ANYTHING about normal teenage behavior in medical school either. Guess it's gone missing somewhere with the nutrition curriculum... Funny that the Kreb's Cycle made the cut though... :) Analyze that!Dr. Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10481032355977889911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-7704752024634194252007-09-04T10:42:00.000-04:002007-09-04T10:42:00.000-04:00I can imagine what you're going through, been ther...I can imagine what you're going through, been there. Didn't know what to do myself although I am a psychiatrist. People think you know what to do with this difficult age group because you're a psychiatrist.<BR/>Since I am to give a lecture about depression and adolescents I got interested in normal brain development of teenagers (rationalizing?).<BR/>Even made a post about it on my blog<BR/>http://ectweb.blogspot.com/2007/07/adolescents-they-are-brain-damaged.html<BR/>Regards and thanks for your excellent post,<BR/>Dr ShockDr. Shockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06372987090860490834noreply@blogger.com